How Your Morning Impacts Your Self-Esteem

So many motivational speakers, authors, and podcasts talk about the importance of your morning routine. I obviously agree about the importance because I created an online course to help others create and conquer their morning routine. But when you hear most talk about morning rituals, they gloss over it in superficial ways. The books I’ve read and podcasts I’ve listened to for research don’t dive into the most important parts about having a morning routine. 

Many authors or speakers still to surface-level advice. They teach people how to create morning routines, but many forget to talk about the “why.” Why is your morning so critical to you, specifically? How would an improved morning routine affect your life? And what does today’s article title even mean – that your morning affects your self-esteem? I will walk you through all of this and more. 

Every day when you wake up, you choose to set the tone for your day by how you enact that first hour. Everything that happens in your day is affected by this choice. Sounds dramatic, right? It’s easy for people to TELL you how improved your life would be if you had a better morning routine, but words can’t really do it justice. I will do my best to paint a picture to illustrate the impacts. 

Let’s go through some choices you make for that critical first hour. 

Before we do that, though, if today’s article resonates with you, then grab a friend and save your seat in my free masterclass, “How to Rock a Consistent Morning Routine by Mastering These 3 Secrets!” below:

And now, back to our regularly-scheduled programming.

Trigger: Alarm goes off at 6:00 am 

Path 1 – You are jarred awake and immediately hit snooze without thinking. This possibly leads into hitting snooze 2-6,7,8 more times, and anywhere from 10-60 minutes could pass.

Implications – You are likely frazzled, maybe cursing yourself, and trying to convince yourself that you can get ready faster. Of course, that never works. Your internal Negative Nancy might start coming out to play and telling you: Why do I do this to myself all the time? What is wrong with me? I can’t be late again. You are likely going through mental negotiations: Do I have time to wash my hair? Will it be a dry shampoo day? Messy bun? Do I even have time to shower? You might be feeling defeated, rushed, annoyed with yourself, and/or like a failure already. 

Because your sleep cycle was interrupted by the snooze button, you will be affected by “sleep inertia” for the next four hours, and your productivity will therefore be compromised. Your shoulders are probably hunched over slightly, you might be feeling slightly anxious, and/or cortisol causes an increase in your heart rate or blood pressure. And you haven’t even made it to the bathroom yet. 

Path 2 – You are jarred awake and immediately turn off the alarm. 

Implications – Maybe you get out of bed right away or perhaps you lounge for a minute and let your body wake up by stretching. You scoop up the clothes you left out the night before or pick out an outfit and head to the bathroom. You are moving at an average pace, not rushed or slow. You are feeling calm. 

Trigger: Bathroom routine 

Path 1 – You go about your typical morning hygiene routine, in its typical order, but you are preoccupied about rushing while you think about how the day will go. 

Implications – When you are rushed, you are more likely to think negative thoughts about your body. When you catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror as you get in the shower, your inner voice will likely be more critical because you are starting from a place of duress. You are already upset, so your frazzled mentality is more receptive to noticing what you perceive to be as flaws. You will be quicker to notice the way your breasts hang, your cellulite, or your stomach apron. 

Negative energy feeds off negative energy. In the shower, as you get dressed, and as you put on makeup (if you still have time to do that), you might be feeling anxious, trepidatious about everything you have to do that day, and in an overall down mood. You might not be sad, per se, but you might feel down or blah. 

Path 2 – You go about your typical morning hygiene routine, in its typical order. Again, you are moving at an average pace, not rushed or slow. Then, you take time for yourself, whatever that looks like for you. Maybe you exercise, read the Bible, write in a journal for gratitude practice, have a leisurely cup of coffee and read, do yoga or meditate, or anything that brings you joy. 

Implications – If you exercised, you are likely on an endorphin high. Your vision is literally clearer from exercising, and your mind is likely flooded with ideas and positive thoughts. If you exercised, you are also probably feeling excited and happy. When was the last time you were happy at 6:00 am? Not just “okay,” but legit happy? If you did yoga, meditated, or journaled for your gratitude practice, you are likely feeling calm. 

When you go to take a shower, you might literally see your body in the mirror, but negative thoughts are less likely to come to your mind because you are beginning from a more upbeat, calm state. You are likely thinking about the day ahead, but in a matter-of fact way. You aren’t thinking about the day with a worried frame of mind. You complete your entire dressing routine, whatever that means for you. Perhaps that includes putting on make-up, listening to a podcast or music in the bathroom, and/or styling your hair. You are peaceful.

Trigger: Everything remaining before leaving the house

Path 1 – You hurriedly pack your bag for work. Because you are running so late, you might have to skip breakfast, go out for lunch and spend money you were trying to save, and/or be late for work.

Implications – You feel defeated. You are disappointed in and upset with yourself for not getting up on time, again. You are annoyed with yourself that you hit the snooze button so many times and berate yourself for “never learning.” You are likely thinking something similar to the following: I can’t do this anymore, Why can’t I get up earlier? What is wrong with me? I can’t be late again. You internalize the rushing as a personal flaw. On the way to work, you try not to drive dangerously, but rush at the same time. You are anxious the whole time, eyeing the time on the dashboard. You get to work five minutes late. Again. 

This is all before your day has officially started. And this version was without the added responsibility of wrangling kids in the morning. Recap: You’ve put yourself in a position that leaves you feeling defeated, depleted, disappointed and angry with yourself, like you are inherently flawed. You created a situation that set you up to feel bad about your body, be less productive for FOUR hours, increased your heartrate, and anxiety took your body hostage. Is this how you want to live your life? Did you realize you were doing this to yourself?

Stop the madness! Let’s push pause for a moment. If you are identifying with any of the above, you need to register for my free masterclass, “How to Rock a Consistent Morning Routine by Mastering These 3 Secrets!” STAT! Grab a friend and secure your spot below: 

Path 2 – You pack your bag for work and have time to prepare your breakfast and lunch. You grab your planner or journal, check your phone, and jump in the car to listen to an uplifting personal growth podcast. Again, you are moving at an average pace, not rushed or slow.

Implications – You are calm as you leave the house. You are optimistic about the day and feel confident in general, but specifically like you can rock this day. You have more patience and feel happy. 

This is all before your day has officially started. Recap: You’ve put yourself in a position that leaves you feeling confident, proud, calm, peaceful, euphoric, patient, and maybe even sexier. Way to go, friend! You are embracing your best self and cultivating your best life. By creating such a positive, strong foundation, you are more likely to personally grow, take risks, and challenge yourself. You are a role model. 

If you are reading this and identify with the negative side effects of getting up late or really, really want the positive effects I described, then register for my masterclass, friend. You will learn:

*The single biggest predictor of your morning routine’s likelihood of success

*The habit you have that is an act of self-sabotage

*And why “white-knuckling” it or going “cold turkey” are the wrong approaches.

How do you know if you should attend this masterclass?

*If you sincerely want a better morning routine, but are inconsistent.

*If you feel defeated or depleted before you even leave the house because you are rushed and stressed from waking up late.

*If you feel invisible in your own life because you have no time for yourself.

Let’s do this, friend! This is YOUR year to conquer this habit for good, and I will be there to guide and support you every step of the way. Grab a friend and save your spot in my free masterclass “How to Rock a Consistent Morning Routine by Mastering These 3 Secrets!” below:

Which Path do you identify with or want to pursue? What is holding YOU back from having a successful morning routine? Comment below!

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