After 535 days without sugar, I caved

Sigh. Sharing this with you brings up much sadness and disappointment. Last September I wrote an article about “My Journey to Giving up Sugar” (read it here https://followyourspark.blog/my-journey-to-giving-up-sugar/) in honor of my first year without added sugar. I was so proud of myself because sugar had always been a coping mechanism for stress and boredom…

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What Your Partner Wants From You

Which scenario would more likely produce an “ooh la la” from you? Don’t roll your eyes; I wouldn’t say “ooh la la” either, but you get the idea. Which would you prefer your partner to do for you: Hold your hands at the movies, have your car washed, give you a bracelet out of the…

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Stop your relationship rut in its tracks! Part II

You might be in a relationship rut if… How would you finish that sentence? You will notice a theme in today’s article – the way to bust a rut is with intentionality. I hope for your sake that these don’t resonate, but if they do, take heed and do some serious reflection. Then act on…

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How to Fix Relationship Ruts Part I

You might be in a relationship rut if… How would you finish that sentence?  Naturally, the answer will be based on your own experiences, your childhood (don’t worry, this won’t be a therapy session), and societal messages. Today’s article… RUT #1: You only peck each other on the lips Scenario: You probably already know what…

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Love is not disposable

Love is not disposable. That’s been a hard lesson for me to learn. Communication within a relationship is hard enough to navigate, but if you haven’t had healthy or stable examples of what a positive one should look like, then it’s even more difficult.  For some of us, when a partner hurts us or we…

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How to Navigate Family Drama during the Holidays

I’m writing this article “How to navigate family drama during the holidays” because well, we all have it. I’m not going to pretend that Uncle Al doesn’t drive you nuts with his fragrant belching or that you enjoy Grandma Mary questioning your parenting decisions. Friend, the holidays can be merry and bright, but they can also be gray-hair…

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How to be become a better listener for your partner

Can we acknowledge how vulnerable we feel when we open up to our partners? Please and thank you. Some of us would rather cut off a toe than expose our deepest fears. Our significant other is the one person we are supposed to trust, feel safe with, and be vulnerable with, but that doesn’t mean…

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Fighting: How to know how your partner really feels about you

Have you ever heard the saying “alcohol is a truth serum?” When it comes to relationships, I submit that how a couple fights is a truth serum. It’s easy to enjoy relationships during the honeymoon phase, but how a couple handles confrontation and the “rough patches” is a representation of how they communicate. Fighting with…

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Why You Need to Create More Time

Time is currency. Unpack that for a second. How many minutes of your day and hours of your week do you spend on frivolous, unnecessary tasks or distractions that don’t bring you anything close to happiness? How many of those minutes could be spent playing with your child, holding your significant other’s hand, or creating a…

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