What Self-Care Isn’t

 I might break some hearts with this article, but we need to be honest with ourselves. What we claim is self-care is often the opposite. Overeating, hitting the snooze button, and spending more money than we have are not “self-care.” They are conscious acts of self-sabotage. Memes with “Self-care Sundays” and “Make time for self-care”…

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How to identify and create a plan for your goals.

There are two ways to think about the phrase “last four months.” Some of you might think, Yes, four months left, while others might think, Crap, only four months left! As a glass-half-full kind of person, I offer you this encouragement. A new school year signifies the end of summer, but it is also a…

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How to Live an Excuse-free Life

If you stopped 20 random people in the grocery store and asked them what their dream is, I bet few would be able to articulate one. And I get it. It’s much easier to focus on your 87,000 daily responsibilities than to purposely add more on. I GET IT. Some of us weren’t taught to…

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How to Stop Caring About Other People’s Opinions

Do you find that your list of pet peeves grows as you get older? I’m raising my hand. One of my new pet peeves is when people care about other people’s opinions about them. Let me share an example. My parents in law live in a retirement community complete with exercise center, a clubhouse, and…

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Ten Tips for Practicing Self-Care

A few weeks ago, I hurriedly took a shower and got dressed to go to the movies with my husband. I decided to “dress up.” I planned a sequin tank with a summer skirt and heels. I thought I was ahead of the game by shaving my legs, until my seven-year-old son Sebastian got a…

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Formidable Female Manifesto

I see you. Perhaps you are in the dreaded “middle-age” zone and are 35 or older. Maybe you have children, a significant other, or an established career. Your life is set. You no longer think of yourself too much outside of those parameters. Some of your underwear probably has holes, and you likely only have…

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Let It Go and Forgive Yourself

I’m going to invoke a song that will not leave your head for the remainder of the day. Or week. In the words of Queen Elsa of Arendelle, “Let it go! Let it go! Can’t hold it back anymore!” You’re welcome. Consider it my gift to you. In short, whatever you may be holding onto…

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3-Point Plan for Establishing Wellness Goals

Sounds simple, right? Then why aren’t you doing it? So many of the things we know are good for us are simplistic in concept, but we stumble in taking action. Sometimes you need to hear the same thing 8 times before conquering it for good. Let’s dive in to your 8th and final time. Here is…

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Why we put ourselves down when complimented

 Allow me to paint a picture of two successful women who still find it necessary to put themselves down and why we put ourselves down when complimented:  As a High School Counselor and Independent College Counselor, I visit 15-ish colleges a year to share firsthand knowledge with my students. Recently I was in line during…

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